一、所谓的孤独,大概就是你想找人说话,却没有人是你的听客。真正美好的生活,应该是你认真对待自己,活得舒适自然,并且内心感到丰盈满足,愿你精致到老,眼里长着太阳,笑里全是坦荡。如果你希望成功,当以恒心为良友,以经验为参谋,以当心为兄弟,以希望为哨兵。
The so-called loneliness is probably that you want to talk to someone, but no one is your listener. The real good life should be that you take yourself seriously, live comfortably and naturally, and feel rich and contented in your heart. Wishing you delicate to old age, with the sun in your eyes and open laughter in your eyes. If you want to succeed, you should use perseverance as your good friend, experience as your reference, care as your brother and hope as your sentry.
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二、别以为你放不下的人也放不下你!前任之所以成为了感情公害、让你不想回头、又不忍放弃,皆是因为你想得太多。一个微笑、一条信息!你看淡点好不好。要知道,有些偶尔的关心,不是余情未了、只是出于礼貌。走着走着,就散了,回忆都淡了;看着看着,就累了,星光也暗了;听着听着,就醒了,开始埋怨了;回头发现,你不见了,突然我乱了。
Don't think you can't let go of the people you can't let go of you! The reason why your predecessor became a public nuisance of feelings, made you not want to look back, and couldn't bear to give up is that you think too much. A smile, a message! Would you like a light one? You know, there are occasional concerns, not out of gratitude, just out of courtesy. Walking along, the memories are faded; watching, tired, the stars are dim; listening, wake up, began to complain; looking back, you are missing, suddenly I messed up.
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三、你会突然发现自己变成了另外一个人,而你不再抗拒自己变了,只是会感叹:自己终于能平静接受这些变化了。你也不担心未来的自己是会更糟糕,好或不好,不是外界的问题,而是适应问题。你会知道自己的适应力和愈合力总比自己想象中要更强。
You will suddenly find yourself a different person, and you will no longer resist your change, but will sigh: you can finally accept these changes calmly. You also don't worry about the future of yourself will be worse, better or worse, not external problems, but adaptation problems. You will know that your resilience and healing power are always stronger than you think.
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四、人的一生会遇到两个人,一个惊艳了时光,一个温柔了岁月。一个真正一无所有的人,是不可能为自己的一无所有而抱怨,而感到痛苦的。真正的一无所有,你甚至没法抱怨,也不可能产生任何感受,哪怕是痛苦。
A person's life will meet two people, one amazing time, one gentle years. A person who really has nothing can not complain about his own nothing and feel painful. You have nothing to complain about, and you can't feel anything, even pain.
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五、闭上眼睛,安静内心告诉自己。别人想什么,我们控制不了;别人做什么,我们也强求不了。但我自己喜欢的样子,我可以努力成为那样。说话过脑子是很重要的品行,对任何事不负责甚至不经思考的随意评价,判断以及询问都很讨厌。蠢就是蠢,真的一点也不萌。
Close your eyes and tell yourself quietly. We can't control what others think; we can't force others to do. But as I like, I can try to be like that. Speaking in the brain is a very important behavior. It is very annoying to evaluate, judge and inquire about anything irresponsibly or even thoughtlessly. Stupidity is stupidity. It really doesn't bud at all.
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六、过度考虑别人的感受,是一种对自己的不认同,总是活在别人眼神里的人,也等于从来不曾存在过。梦想这个东西,放在心中越重,离现实越远,不要等着天上掉馅饼,也不要奢望上天对你的同情,唯有去努力,才有可能看见一片新的天空。
Overthinking others'feelings is a kind of disapproval of oneself, a person who always lives in other people's eyes, and is equal to never having existed. Dream, the more you put it in your heart, the farther away you are from reality. Don't wait for pie to fall from the sky. Don't expect heaven's sympathy for you. Only by working hard, can you see a new sky.
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七、如果我爱你,而你也正巧的爱我。你头发乱了的时候,我会笑笑的替你拨一拨,然后,手还留恋的在你头上多待几秒。但是,如果我爱你,而你不巧的不爱我。你头发乱了,我只会轻轻的告诉你,你头发了乱了哦。这大概是最纯粹的爱情观,如若相爱,便携手到老;如若错过,便护他安好。
If I love you, and you happen to love me. When your hair is messy, I will laugh and dial it for you, and then my hand will linger on your head for a few seconds. But if I love you, and you unfortunately don't love me. Your hair is messy. I'll just tell you gently that your hair is messy. This is probably the purest concept of love. If you love each other, you can always be handy; if you miss it, you can protect him.
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八、最终我还是选择离你而去,离开不代表不爱你,而是有太多太多的无奈,从一开始我们就错了,错的一塌糊涂。生活是一种自我心态的调整,挫折的时候记得笑一笑,勇气还在。委屈的时候,问一问自己,自己本来就是一个坚强的人,还能让泪水淹死,生活也不就是忙碌一点,又有什么,别矫情,理想还在!
Finally, I choose to leave you, leaving does not mean not love you, but there are too many helpless, from the beginning we are wrong, wrong mess. Life is a kind of adjustment of self-mentality, remember to laugh when setbacks, courage is still there. When grieving, ask yourself that you are a strong person, and you can drown your tears. Life is not just a little busy. What's there? Don't be affectated, and your ideal is still there!
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九、每个人都会有一段异常艰难的时光,生活的窘迫,工作的失意,学业的压力,爱的惶惶不可终日。挺过来的,人生就会豁然开朗;挺不过来的,时间也会教会你怎么与它们握手言和,所以你都不必害怕的。
Everyone will have a very difficult time, the embarrassment of life, the frustration of work, the pressure of study, the fear of love all the time. If you survive, life will be bright; if you can't survive, time will teach you how to shake hands and make peace with them, so you don't have to be afraid.
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十、学会以入世的态度去耕耘,以出世的态度去收获,苦乐随缘,得失随缘,这也是随缘人生的最高境界。
Learning to cultivate with the attitude of joining the WTO, to harvest with the attitude of being born, to follow the fate of bitterness and happiness, to follow the fate of gain and loss, this is also the highest realm of life with fate.
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十二、舍不得放开的手,都是因为曾经付出过真心,分开总是会让人难过,让人不甘心,可是我们又都稍显无能为力。
Unwilling to let go of the hand, because we have paid sincerely, separation always makes people sad, let people not be reconciled, but we are slightly helpless.
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十三、任何事情,什么时候开始都不晚,晚的是你从来都不敢开始!今天拖明天,明天拖后天,一年又一年,除了年龄长了一岁,其他依旧老样子!而一旦开始,你就会发现,其实那些所谓的困难,都只是自己设想的而已!只要开始了,一切都单了!不怕你不会,就怕你不做!
It's never too late for anything to start. It's too late for you to start. Today is tomorrow, tomorrow is the day after tomorrow, year after year, except one year older, the others are still the same! And once you start, you will find that the so-called difficulties are just what you imagine! As long as it starts, everything is simple! Not afraid you won't, just afraid you won't do it!
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十四、喜欢一个人后,眼角眉梢都是你,四面八方都是你,上天入地都是你,成也是你,败也是你。人生就是一场回不了头的赌局,赢了,站在高处,输了,被埋地底,不要抱着侥幸的心理去对待任何一件事,不是事事成功,人人幸运,没有最基本的知识,你何有资格说“不”?
Like a person, eyes and eyebrows are you, in all directions are you, God into the earth are you, success is you, failure is you. Life is a gamble that can't be turned back. If you win, stand on the high ground, lose, and be buried in the ground, don't treat anything with luck. Everyone is lucky and has no basic knowledge. Why are you qualified to say "no"?
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十五、人生没有真正的绝望。树,在秋天放下了落叶,心很疼,可是整个冬天,它让心在平静中积蓄力量。一到,芳华依然。只要生命还握在手心,人生就没有绝望。一时的成败得失对于一生来说,不过来了一场小感冒。心若累了,让它休息,灵魂的修复是人生永不干枯的希望。
There is no real despair in life. Trees, in autumn, put down the fallen leaves, and their hearts ache, but throughout the winter, they let their hearts accumulate strength in calm. Once spring arrives, Fanghua is still there. As long as life is still in hand, there will be no despair in life. Success or failure for a while is life, but a small cold. If the heart is tired, let it rest, and the restoration of the soul is the hope that life will never dry up.
十六、原来我也可以如此自私的不理会你的感受,虽然很心疼,但我别无选择,对不起。真正的爱情要懂得珍惜,没有谁和谁是天生注定就在一起的,一辈子其实不长,能遇到心爱的人是多么幸运,为何不握紧她的手。
Originally, I can be so selfish to ignore your feelings, although very distressed, but I have no choice, I am sorry. True love should know how to cherish, no one and who is destined to be together, life is not really long, how lucky to meet the loved one, why not hold her hand.
十七、活得糊涂的,容易幸福;活得清醒的,容易烦恼。这是因为,清醒的人看得太真切,一较真,生活中便烦恼遍地;而糊涂的人,计较得少,虽然活得单粗糙,却因此觅得了人生的大滋味。
It's easy to be happy if you live in confusion; it's easy to worry if you live soberly. This is because sober people look too real, a more real, life will be troubled everywhere; while confused people, care less, although living a simple rough, but therefore find a great taste of life.
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出自《经年》 作者 苏剧
经年——天将明,夜未央
给庚澈:
生活在艺术里的人
想象永远比现实多一点点
也像别人一样一起喝酒聊天看电影
爱情或友情不需要辩解
或许本就不是爱情
爱情来也快去也快
他们之间,是一种习惯
莱斯要离开了
他喃喃的问劳斯会不会想他
劳斯心中一颤
早知道他要走的
只是真的要走的时候
心里忽然有了难言得痛楚
像是生长得花要被连根拔起
只不过
五年的风雨一起走过了
就算以后劳斯有了劳斯的生活
莱斯有了莱斯的世界
记忆深处那份习惯着的气味
却成了唯一岁月带不走的东西
此去经年
两个少年
一个惊艳了时光,一个温柔了岁月
对他们那盛大的爱的感叹和赞美。
惊艳,温柔。
时光的长河流过也是一样,
岁月之后也不变的永恒的爱。