宁静致远，
得静，才能远。
幸福知足，
得知足，才能幸福。
实现梦想，
得行动，才能成梦。
实现独立，
得强根，才能自强。
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结婚和优秀
无任男女，结婚早晚与优秀无关，与心智成熟程度有关，世界那么大，毕竟不是每个人都优秀更不是只有优秀的人才配有婚姻爱情。努力变的优秀？努力只是个抽象化概念化的词汇，到底什么是努力，怎样才算努力，也许谁也不能给出具体答案，因为努力是相对的，不是绝对的，它小到生活中做好洗衣做饭柴米油盐这种小事，大到国家社稷人类文明。
努力和离婚
在时代感加重的情况下人们是浮躁的，年轻人更是不容易的，这就造成了一边放纵着欲望享受生活的同时人人又张口闭口的要努力，其实多为自我麻醉和感动自己的青春期的一腔热血而已，能如己所愿的是少之又少。这种情况下多数人却忘记了自己已拥有的幸福，而离婚是夫妻关系所有矛盾和问题的一个终结点，而矛盾和问题从来不是突如其来的，而是日积月累形成的结果。
离婚和家暴
离婚只是个爆发点而已，同时离婚与否，本质上是三观差距无法平衡的一个结果，金钱物质只是起到煽风点火的作用，即使没有金钱物质问题的催化，也会因为别的问题点燃，因为这场婚姻内在已腐朽。男人家暴与否，一部分来自于男人本身的品德问题，一部分来自于女人的问题。
如是男人品德问题应选择离婚或当时就不应该将就的结婚，婚姻也不存在什么太多的误判，所谓的误判都是纵容，无底线的包容和将就造成的，也就是说只能怪自己当初粗心大意自讨苦吃，毕竟结婚这是没有谁能强逼你，如是自己问题而诱发或直接导致男人家暴应自我检讨。
态度和行为
但无任男女都应保持自己应有的正确态度和行为，男人的责任和对家庭与妻孩的守护这不是为别人，而是为自己，否则不光给别人增加痛苦烦恼，也给自己增加痛苦烦恼。而女人之所以要温柔也不是为了别人，而是为了自己，泼辣和无理只会让自己更加痛苦和助长男人的恶行。真正聪明的女人就是做真正的女人，女人真正的资本是“机智”和“智慧”这使得如鱼得水适应其地位,而不是抱怨，但这只适合聪明而不是狡猾的坏女人。女人越成为男人的样子，越无法驾驭男人，只会被反驾驭。
独立和快乐
金钱与快乐并不是女人为之自豪的唯一独立口号，其实这多少有些好斗和刚愎自用，而这背后是长久的压抑和不被重视，金钱与快乐只是生活润滑剂的一部分，支撑人们独立的是智慧，智慧本身并不能产生财富，但可以转化为财富，智慧本身也就是财富的源泉。人类现今的一切都源于它的转换。
女人独立，固然重要，但首当其冲的是德志、思想独立，然后才是经济和生活独立，而不是为了满足自己的任性和虚荣打着金钱和快乐独立的旗帜去伪独立，因为没有德志、思想的独立，一旦没钱，没快乐了，会更迷茫、痛苦、孤独、寂寞，那时失去了内在真正的支柱是极容易走向极端的。
那些活成了男人的样子，表面光鲜亮丽的女人多数是很压抑不幸福的，而这些不用外人说，恐怕只有她们自己知道。一个女人如果抛弃了淑静的态度,像男人样,那么这不是遵循,是违背女人的天职,也是剥夺自己的权利。有人说女人有很多缺点,但其实正是这些所谓的是优点的缺点才让事情像现在这样圆满,只要不要让这些缺点变成恶习,而不是去消灭它们。
Marriage and Excellence
Regardless of men and women, marrying sooner or later has nothing to do with excellence, and it has nothing to do with mental maturity. The world is so big, after all, not everyone is excellent, not only excellent talents are qualified for marriage and love. Strive to be excellent? Effort is only an abstract and conceptual vocabulary. No one can give a concrete answer to what is effort and how to do it. Effort is relative, not absolute. It is as small as doing laundry, cooking, cooking, oil and salt in life, and as big as national society and human civilization.
Efforts and divorce
People are impetuous and young people are not easy when the sense of the times is aggravated. This leads to the fact that while indulging in desires and enjoying life, everyone has been telling themselves to keep what they call hard work. In fact, most of them are self-anesthesia and warm blood in their adolescence. What they want is to do what they want Few. In this case, most people forget their own happiness, and divorce is the end of all contradictions and problems in the relationship between husband and wife, and contradictions and problems are never unexpected, but the result of cumulative formation.
Divorce and domestic violence
Divorce is just a breaking point. At the same time, whether divorce or not is essentially a result of the unbalanced gap between the three perspectives. Money material only plays a role of incitement and ignition. Even without the catalysis of money material problems, it will be ignited by other problems, because the marriage is already decadent. Whether a man"s domestic violence or not comes partly from his own moral problems and partly from women"s problems.
If a man"s moral problems should choose divorce or marriage that should not be completed at that time, there are not too many misjudgements in marriage. The so-called misjudgements are all indulgence, no bottom line tolerance and will cause, that is to say, he can only blame himself for carelessness and self-infliction. After all, no one can force you to get married, if so. Men"s domestic violence caused or directly caused by their own problems should be self-criticized.
Attitudes and behaviour
However, both men and women should maintain their proper attitude and behavior. Men"s responsibility and guardianship of their families and wives and children are not for others, but for themselves. Otherwise, they will not only add pain to others, but also to themselves. The reason why women want to be gentle is not for others, but for themselves, spicy and unreasonable will only make themselves more painful and encourage men"s evil deeds. The real wisdom of a woman is to be a real woman. The real capital of a woman is "wit" and "wisdom", which makes it suitable for her position rather than complaining, but only for a smart rather than a cunning bad woman. The more a woman becomes a man, the less she can control a man, the less she can be controlled.
Independence and Happiness
Money and happiness are not the only independent slogans women are proud of. In fact, they are somewhat aggressive and self-serving. Behind this, they are long-term depression and neglect. Money and happiness are only part of the lubricant of life. It is wisdom that supports people"s independence. Wisdom itself can not produce wealth, but can be transformed into wealth. Wealth, wisdom itself is the source of wealth. Everything that mankind is now deriving from its transformation.
Independence of women is important, of course, but the most important thing is moral and ideological independence, and then economic and life independence, not to satisfy their capriciousness and vanity and to fight against false independence under the banner of money and happiness, because without moral and ideological independence, once there is no money and no happiness, it will be more confused and painful. Loneliness, loneliness, then lost the inner real pillar is very easy to go to extremes.
Most of the women who are alive as men and bright on the surface are very depressed and unhappy, and they are probably the only ones who know it, no outsiders need to say. If a woman abandons her quiet attitude and looks like a man, then it is not to follow, it is against her duty and deprives herself of her rights. Some people say that women have many shortcomings, but it is these so-called advantages that make things as successful as they are now, as long as these shortcomings do not become bad habits, rather than to eliminate them.
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